After 50 Years Of Tears, Hard And Pᴀɪɴ Her long Fᴇʀᴛɪʟɪᴛʏ Journey Ended In “A Miracle.”
After nearly a decade of trying, Susie Troxler, a licensed psychologist living in High Point, North Carolina, became a mom for the very first time — at the proud age of 50.
“I don’t even have the ᴡᴏʀᴅs, ɪᴛ’s sᴜʀʀᴇᴀʟ, I still can’t believe it. I spent so much time being me, first, and then being a wife. So now, this idea of being a mom is… it’s still a ‘wow’ for me.”
Susie and her husband, Tony Troxler, 61, welcomed their first child and daughter, Lily Troxler, weighing 5 lbs and 12.8 oz., on Sept. 29, 2021. The road that lead the couple to that joyous moment was long, and started long before the couple recognized they were having a challenging time ᴄᴏɴᴄᴇɪᴠɪɴɢ.
“We didn’t even realize there was a fertility issue when we got married, because we were just doing the couple thingI was working, he was working, and we were just busy.”Susie explains
When five years became eight years ᴡɪᴛʜᴏᴜᴛ ᴀ ᴘᴏsɪᴛɪᴠᴇ ᴘʀᴇɢɴᴀɴᴄʏ ᴛᴇsᴛ, Susie says the couple started to wonder why they hadn’t ᴄᴏɴᴄᴇɪᴠᴇᴅ.
“My doctor said,I had ᴀ ʙᴏᴀᴛʟᴏᴀᴅ ᴏF Fɪʙʀᴏɪᴅs.” Susie said
Uterine fibroids are ɴᴏɴᴄᴀɴᴄᴇʀᴏᴜs ɢʀᴏᴡᴛʜs ᴏF ᴛʜᴇ ᴜᴛᴇʀᴜs, according to the Mayo Clinic. During sᴜʀɢᴇʀʏ ᴛᴏ ʀᴇᴍᴏᴠᴇ ᴛʜᴇ Fɪʙʀᴏɪᴅs, Sᴜsɪᴇ ᴡᴀs ᴀʟsᴏ ᴅɪᴀɢɴᴏsᴇᴅ ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴇɴᴅᴏᴍᴇᴛʀɪᴏsɪs — ᴀ ᴘᴀɪɴFᴜʟ ɢʏɴᴇᴄᴏʟᴏɢɪᴄᴀʟ ᴄᴏɴᴅɪᴛɪᴏɴ ɪɴ ᴡʜɪᴄʜ ᴇɴᴅᴏᴍᴇᴛʀɪᴀʟ-ᴛʏᴘᴇ ᴛɪssᴜᴇ ɢʀᴏᴡs ᴏᴜᴛsɪᴅᴇ ᴛʜᴇ ᴜᴛᴇʀᴜs. Tony also had ᴍᴇᴅɪᴄᴀʟ ɪssᴜᴇs ᴛʜᴀᴛ ᴡᴇʀᴇ ɪᴍᴘᴀᴄᴛɪɴɢ the couple’s chances at ᴄᴏɴᴄᴇɪᴠɪɴɢ.
Still, Susie and Tony were determined to keep trying. Susie said her doctor was upfront and honest about how difficult it would be for the couple to ᴄᴏɴᴄᴇɪᴠᴇ and for her to carry a healthy pregnancy to term. Her doctor also shared with her the ᴘᴏᴛᴇɴᴛɪᴀʟ ʀɪsᴋs ᴀssᴏᴄɪᴀᴛᴇᴅ with getting pregnant later in life. Some risks, according to the Mayo Clinic, include ɢᴇsᴛᴀᴛɪᴏɴᴀʟ ᴅɪᴀʙᴇᴛᴇs, ᴘʀᴇᴍᴀᴛᴜʀᴇ ʙɪʀᴛʜ ᴀɴᴅ Fᴇᴛᴀʟ ᴄʜʀᴏᴍᴏsᴏᴀʟ ᴀʙɴᴏʀᴍᴀʟᴛɪᴇs.
“He was very clear that this was going to be an ᴜᴘʜɪʟʟ ʙᴀᴛᴛʟᴇ Fʀᴏᴍ ᴛʜᴇ ʙᴇɢɪɴɴɪɴɢ,I ʜᴀᴅ Fɪʙʀᴏɪᴅ sᴜʀɢᴇʀʏ January of 2019, went through the ʜᴇᴀʟɪɴɢ ᴘʀᴏᴄᴇss, ᴀɴᴅ ᴛʜᴇɴ ᴛʜᴇʏ ᴄᴏʟʟᴇᴄᴛᴇᴅ ᴇɢɢ ᴀFᴛᴇʀ ᴇɢɢ. I went through several rounds of ᴇɢɢ ʀᴇᴛʀɪᴇᴠᴀʟ ᴀɴᴅ ᴛʜᴇ ɪɴsᴇᴍɪɴᴀᴛɪᴏɴ ᴏF ᴇɢɢs and none of it took.” she explains
Tony and Susie turned their eyes to egg ᴅᴏɴᴀᴛɪᴏɴ, and after another egg insemination were left with only two ᴠɪᴀʙʟᴇ ᴇᴍʙʀʏᴏs. Susie underwent a fresh ᴇᴍʙʀʏᴏ transfer in late 2019, but the ᴇᴍʙʀʏᴏ did not take. As C.ᴏ.ᴠ.ɪ.ᴅ-19 began to spread in the United States, Tony and Susie were left with one ᴠɪᴀʙʟᴇ ᴇᴍʙʀʏᴏ and what the couple considered to be their last chance.
“It was not going to happen, There wasn’t supposed to be a baby. We had that second ᴇᴍʙʀʏᴏ, frozen, and we knew we didn’t want to ʟᴇᴀᴠᴇ ɪᴛ Fʀᴏᴢᴇɴ Fᴏʀᴇᴠᴇʀ,” Susie adds. “So we moved forward and they did an ᴇᴍʙʀʏᴏ transfer. And here we are — parents.”” Susie explains
Susie says that while the doctors monitored her pregnancy closely, both her pregnancy and her daughter’s birth were ʀᴀᴛʜᴇʀ ᴜɴᴇᴠᴇɴᴛFᴜʟ. Due to her ᴘʀᴇᴠɪᴏᴜs Fɪʙʀᴏɪᴅ sᴜʀɢᴇʀʏ, Susie knew she was going to have ᴀ C-sᴇᴄᴛɪᴏɴ.
Susie and Tony have now been parents for two months, and while Susie admits the pair are not sleeping very often, she is enjoying every second of new motherhood.
“You roll with it, because it’s so totally worth it,” Susie says