ᴛʀᴀɴsɢᴇɴᴅᴇʀ Man Who Gave Birth To Son ᴄʀɪᴛɪᴄɪsᴇs And Unhappy At Being Called A ‘Mother’ During Pregnancy
A ᴛʀᴀɴsɢᴇɴᴅᴇʀ man who gave birth last year is now ᴄʀɪᴛɪᴄɪsɪɴɢ ʜᴇᴀʟᴛʜ ᴘʀᴏ Fᴇssɪᴏɴᴀʟs for calling him a ‘mother’ during his pregnancy, and says that pregnancy should not be closely tied with motherhood. A ᴛʀᴀɴsɢᴇɴᴅᴇʀ man who gave birth to a baby boy has publicly hit out at hospital sᴛᴀff ᴀfᴛᴇʀ ᴄʟᴀɪᴍɪɴɢ ᴛʜᴇʏ ᴡʀᴏɴɢʟʏ ʀᴇ Fᴇʀʀᴇᴅ to him as a ‘mother’. Bennett Kaspar-Williams from Los Angeles gave birth to son Hudson via Cᴇsᴀʀᴇᴀɴ sᴇᴄᴛɪᴏɴ in October 2020 after falling pregnant with husband Malik.
The 37 year old used to be a woman until they ᴛʀᴀɴsɪᴛɪᴏɴᴇᴅ seven years ago, and had $5000 (£3,744) ‘top sᴜʀɢᴇʀʏ’ that ʀᴇᴍᴏᴠᴇᴅ ᴛʜᴇɪʀ ʙʀᴇᴀsᴛs in the summer of 2015. But they decided to keep their Fᴇᴍᴀʟᴇ reproductive anatomy and began to consider having children for the first time after meeting Malik in 2017.
Now claiming that healthcare workers referred to him as a ‘mother’ during pregnancy, Bennett is leading calls to ʙʀᴇᴀᴋ ᴛʜᴇ ᴄᴏɴɴᴇᴄᴛɪᴏɴ ʙᴇᴛᴡᴇᴇɴ ᴍᴏᴛʜᴇʀʜᴏᴏᴅ ᴀɴᴅ ᴡᴏᴍᴀɴʜᴏᴏᴅ forever after saying it made him feel uncomfortable in his ɢᴇɴᴅᴇʀ ɪᴅᴇɴᴛɪᴛʏ.
He said “The only thing that made me dysphoric about my pregnancy was the misɢᴇɴᴅᴇʀing that happened to me when I was getting medical care for my pregnancy. The business of pregnancy – and yes, I say business, because the ᴇɴᴛɪʀᴇ ɪɴsᴛɪᴛᴜᴛɪᴏɴ of pregnancy care in America is centred around selling this concept of ‘motherhood’ – is so ɪɴᴛᴇʀᴛᴡɪɴᴇᴅ with ɢᴇɴᴅᴇʀ that it was hard to escape being misɢᴇɴᴅᴇʀed. Nothing about being pregnant felt ‘feminine’ to me – in fact, I think carrying a child, isolated due to the ᴘᴀɴᴅᴇᴍɪᴄ, and facing all the hospitals and appointments alone was the absolute toughest, bravest thing I’ve ever done.”
“It’s so important that we stop defining “womanhood” in terms of “motherhood”, because it’s a false equivalency that all women can become mothers, that all mothers carry their children, or that all people who carry children are mothers.” Bennett added that they feel “proud” to say that they are a “dad who created my own child”, and has shared a string of photos showing off their baby ʙᴜᴍᴘ and newborn baby on their Instagram ‘. The lawyer and activist says he is raising Hudson to call him ‘Dada’, while the boy will refer to other father as ‘Papa’.
He also revealed that he will let the child know who gave birth to him “when he’s old enough”, and has no doubt that he will accept him.